One of my closest friends came over with her two kids today. I met her through my brilliant mother's group and nearly four years later we are still going strong.
There are no secrets between
us, we have a really similar attitude to parenting and like each other's
kids (which makes it relaxing to be around each other) and I could
happily see her every day.
But we have a little problem at the moment ... our kids just don't get on!
It's an interesting thing given that
they have been friends for their whole lives, and I really hope they
grow out of it ... but what are we supposed to do in the mean time?
It's interesting to contrast that relationship with Wild Man's preschool friends.
are his first friends that he has chosen for himself, rather than me
choosing to be friends with their mothers and then expecting the kids to
He doesn't fight with those friends
(well, not as much), he happily shares his toys and they are interested
in the same things. I guess that's why they have chosen each other.
in the same way there is no guarantee that he will be friends with my
friend's children, there is no guarantee that I will be close friends
with his friend's mothers (although so far they are all very nice and I do manage to resist the temptation
to hit them with toys ... and women with kids can ALWAYS find something to
But what to do about Wild Man and his little non-friend?
the moment our only solution is to go to the park where there is enough
space for both of them and we can sit together, watching them play
I'm sure they'll get better about playing
together and more accepting of their differences but perhaps in the long
term we will have to also accept that the relationship began with a
friendship between two mothers, and perhaps that's what it will go back
Goodness knows I couldn't cope without her!
Do your kids get on with your friend's children? Do you get on with your kid's friend's mothers?